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Counselling - How I Work
Horsforth, Leeds (LS18), West Yorkshire
Steve Cordingley, Counsellor & Counselling Supervisor
UKRCP registered independent counsellor and psychotherapist; MBACP (Accred)
How I Work (The Longer Version)
Reconnection with Experience, Facilitating Discovery, Change & Transformation
- Initially, the most obvious part of my job is to create an environment where you feel
safe enough to explore yourself and your experience of the world and others without fear
of judgement or conditions and to reflect my understanding of what you think and feel and
how you have made sense of the world and your life. This will then help you decide what
you feel is helpful and productive for you and what could be different if you were to
- I don't think it is my job to make my clients happy. Rather, I believe that it
is my job to help them move to a position where they can make themselves happy, reach
fulfilment and make progress toward their goals, their potential in their lives, their work, their
- When something is no longer working or you would like something to be different, whether
it is wanting to feel better or wanting something in a relationship, work or home life to be
different, therapy can help when change is not happening on its own. Of course, seeing a
therapist can often be about change in you, and that can be a daunting thought.
- Many of the people I have worked with have taught me that therapy often helps
them make progress by helping to clarify two main things:
- what happened that resulted in me arriving here?
- what is my next step?
- This could seem like your therapist is providing answers to questions, but I feel
it is more that your therapist helps you to discover your own answers.
- I hesitate to say this, because change isn't always welcome, but I think perhaps the
journey to discovering ourselves and our experience of our world almost always results
The first session is where you assess me and my working methods
and I do my best to review and understand your reason for coming
to see a therapist - let's say it is an assessment session
on both sides. If you decide to go ahead and arrange
further appointments, we agree our work together, what the purpose
of the work is, how often and when we will meet, what the cost
per session will be, when and how we will review progress,
what my cancellation policies
are and so on.
Early stages of therapy are often focused on developing a
relationship and building trust. During this time,
my role includes gaining a deeper understanding of your experience
and difficulty and I might offer ideas based on my emerging
understanding. As I check each aspect of my
understanding of your situation with you, a deeper understanding
often develops and, from this, you can usually begin to make the
progress you are seeking.
After this, the work tends to evolve in a way that is specific to
your particular experience of life, current difficulties or your
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